Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

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“Unhealthy Communication: A Raging Ride in the Wrong Direction” (source)

“FIVE CHARACTERISTICS OF A HEALTHY, SECURE RELATIONSHIP” (source)

“Difficulties in marriage also arise out of unresolved relational hurts. Arguments and misunderstandings flare up and die, but you never deal with the issues that caused all the flames in the first place. Then as the battles rage, those battles and the wounds they cause become issues in themselves, seriously marring the marital landscape. When you feel hurt and your feelings go unnoticed, your wounds—many of which probably started out as paper cuts—become deep and raw and produce pain that just doesn’t go away. People can’t live like that for long.” (source)

“the avoidant style is rooted in denial and the ambivalent style is stuck in bitterness.)” (source)

“ do not see the relationship between their mood problems and their unresolved grief.” (source)